--- title: Fathers and Husbands by Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp description: Fathers and Husbands by Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp --- [![catholic-mom-logo-v2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/images/catholic-mom-logo-v2.svg "catholic-mom-logo-v2")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) [![search-icon](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/search-icon.svg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2010/05/30/fathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp#) # Fathers and Husbands by Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp May 30, 2010 11:00:19 AM  |  by [Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/lori-hadorn-disselkamp) [![lhd_fathers](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/lhd_fathers-300x240.jpg?width=300&height=240&name=lhd_fathers-300x240.jpg "lhd_fathers")](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/lhd_fathers.jpg)Through the screen door I watched as my husband sawed a board for the patio project he is working on. Ethan with his hammer in hand stopped to watch as did Spencer and Jake.  My husband has such patience with his children he is able to explain to them what he is doing while he is working on a project. That is how they learn from him by watching and listening. It is a precious site for me to witness my soul mate teaching our children anything. As moms our attraction to our husbands changes over time, for some the attraction is all but gone, for many moms the actions that are attractive have more to do with kindness towards our children or a willingness to help around the house. My husband cleaned up all the dishes from dinner recently without me asking him to while I was writing. When I saw the kitchen cleaned I just wanted to kiss him. It shows consideration and selflessness when our husbands do simple things around the house when we don't ask them to do it or if they simply offer to help. We attend church every Sunday without fail. When we were first married he said "We will not miss Church except for illness" to which I agreed fully with but to hear that it was such a priority made me love him even more. On Sunday at Church I often catch a glimpse of him praying and I fall in love with him all over again. It takes a strong man to pray, believe in God so fully and to set the example for his children. When our husbands become the father of our children so many dynamics change in our marriages. Old ideas of marriage transform into survival mode then as our children age we have more time with each other but still have little time to complete a conversation without the children's voices being heard. As time moves on our relationships will continue to change and transform that is part of life. As we age I feel sure other aspects of the man he is will surface and give me the opportunity to love him even more. For now I will hold sacred the site of him teaching and loving our children. ***Copyright 2010 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp*** ### Share this article [![Share on Facebook](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/facebook-24x24.png)](http://www.facebook.com/share.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2010%2F05%2F30%2Ffathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dfacebook) [![Share on Twitter](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/twitter-24x24.png)](https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2010%2F05%2F30%2Ffathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2010%2F05%2F30%2Ffathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&source=tweetbutton&text=Fathers%20and%20Husbands%20by%20Lori%20Hadorn-Disselkamp) [![Share on Email](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/email-24x24.png)](mailto:?subject=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2010%2F05%2F30%2Ffathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail%20&body=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2010%2F05%2F30%2Ffathers-and-husbands-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail) ** #### About the Author ![CatholicMom Logo](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/logos/favicon-catholicmom.png) ### [Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/lori-hadorn-disselkamp) Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp - mom of 4 teens/wife for 20+ years. Lori has been writing at her own website [Faith Filled Mom](http://www.faithfilledmom.com/). She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and the ability to recognize God. She is a retreat director at Sacred Heart Academy HS. She just earned her MA in Pastoral Ministry as well as a certification in spiritual direction. ## Related Blog Articles [ Holding His Hand Read ](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2011/12/04/holding-his-hand) [ He Was Feeding Her by Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp Read ](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2010/05/02/he-was-feeding-her-by-lori-hadorn-disselkamp) [ Open Hand after Open Hand Read ](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2016/05/20/open-hand-open-hand) ## Comments ## Donate now [![Support Catholic Mom](https://no-cache.hubspot.com/cta/default/275132/10016573-1c5c-4aa5-baba-c2ac91fe7545.png)](https://cta-redirect.hubspot.com/cta/redirect/275132/10016573-1c5c-4aa5-baba-c2ac91fe7545) [![CatholicMom_hcfm_logo1_pos_871c_2728c (002)](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/CatholicMom_hcfm_logo1_pos_871c_2728c%20(002).png?width=1806&height=731&name=CatholicMom_hcfm_logo1_pos_871c_2728c%20(002).png "CatholicMom_hcfm_logo1_pos_871c_2728c (002)")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) ##### Subscribe to Catholic Momcast on iTunes or Spotify [![itunes-logo-black](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/logos/itunes-logo-black.svg)](https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/catholic-momcast/id1362352357)[![spotify-logo-black](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/logos/spotify-logo-black.svg)](https://open.spotify.com/show/15CoipHL7z61IDcYErV0b8?si=hqaQJSxDQgq7S1hxCwsoxQ) ##### CatholicMom on Social Networks [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) ##### About Catholic Mom [Who We Are](https://www.catholicmom.com/about-us) [Contact Us](https://www.catholicmom.com/contact) [Support CatholicMom.com](https://www.catholicmom.com/support-us)   ##### Associated Links [Holy Cross Family Ministries](https://www.hcfm.org/) [Family Rosary](https://www.familyrosary.org/) [Family Theater Productions](https://www.familytheater.org/) [Congregation of the Holy Cross](https://www.holycrossusa.org/) [Father Patrick Peyton, C.S.C.](https://www.fatherpeyton.org/) [The Peyton Institute for Domestic Church Life](https://www.peytonfamilyinstitute.org/) ### **Stay connected!** Don’t miss a thing! 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