--- title: Why “thank you’s” still matter by Julie Filby description: Julie Filby considers the importance of expressing our thanks to those who help us in large or small ways. image: https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/20101118%20Guest.png --- [![catholic-mom-logo-v2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/images/catholic-mom-logo-v2.svg "catholic-mom-logo-v2")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) [![search-icon](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/search-icon.svg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2010/11/18/why-thank-yous-still-matter-by-julie-filby#) # Why “thank you’s” still matter by Julie Filby Nov 18, 2010 3:00:01 PM  |  by [Guest](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/guest) ![featured image](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/20101118%20Guest.png) *Julie Filby considers the importance of expressing our thanks to those who help us in large or small ways.* --- *"A grateful heart silences a complaining voice." **–* Bishop Emeritus [Eugene Gerber](http://catholicdioceseofwichita.org/office-of-the-bishop/bishop-emeritus-eugene-j-gerber), Diocese of Wichita Next week we’ll gather with family and friends to celebrate Thanksgiving, a holiday dedicated to gratitude. Recently I had the opportunity to attend Mass at my [hometown parish](http://www.holynamecoffeyville.org/) on the weekend of their inaugural stewardship ministry fair. There I heard a great homily about gratitude from a priest visiting from the diocese’s Office of Stewardship, [Father John Lanzrath](http://catholicdioceseofwichita.org/office-of-stewardship/about-usstaff). Father John started by sharing instances of society’s *in*gratitude. For example, he asked why people don’t say "thank you" anymore when a door is held open for them. He questioned when it became OK to cut people off in traffic, reflecting on the good ol’ days when drivers signaled a lane change, eased into traffic, then offered a wave of thanks to drivers who let them in. We’ve all had similar experiences, and it raises the question: *When did we become so ungrateful?* His message reminded me in my vocation of motherhood, I must strive to instill the virtue of gratitude in my children from an early age. It’s essential for me to lead by example in both word (I can never say "thank you" too often) and deed (a simple thank-you card goes a long way).   ![20101118 Guest 2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/20101118%20Guest%202.png?width=1080&name=20101118%20Guest%202.png)   Father John shared an exercise he referred to as Thank-You Hour. During the week as things come up that he wants to thank people for, he scribbles a note and throws it in a folder. Once a week—every Tuesday at 1 p.m.—he retrieves the notes, grabs a stack of thank-you cards and stamps, and writes a personal note of gratitude to each person (yes, by hand, not by email or text). Not only are the recipients happy to receive the cards, as the sender he benefits as well. In addition to the spiritual component, psychological research has shown that gratitude is an integral part of health, wholeness, and well-being. This Thanksgiving I plan to build on the momentum that will start with turkey, pumpkin pie, football, family ,and friends by considering ways to express gratitude, more frequently and more sincerely. It might include implementing my own Thank You Hour or simply waving more often to drivers who let me merge onto Denver’s crowded I-25 during rush hour. **I WELCOME YOUR COMMENTS BELOW:** Have you written or received a thank-you note lately? 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