--- title: Bucket List? Maybe Not description: Bucket List? Maybe Not --- [![catholic-mom-logo-v2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/images/catholic-mom-logo-v2.svg "catholic-mom-logo-v2")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) [![search-icon](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/search-icon.svg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2013/07/14/bucket-list-maybe-not#) # Bucket List? Maybe Not Jul 14, 2013 1:00:09 PM  |  by [Deanna Bartalini](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/deanna-bartalini) [![Bucket List? Maybe Not](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/water-300x400.jpg?width=300&height=400&name=water-300x400.jpg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/water.jpg) Bucket List? Maybe Not Every now and again I read about people's Bucket Lists.  I suppose they were made popular by the movie of the same title starring Jack Nicholas and Morgan Freeman.  I like the movie but I’ve never made a personal bucket list which is slightly odd considering I am a list maker. Last week, while on vacation with my husband, we spent some time each day reading the book, [*Praying with Ignatius of Loyola*](http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0932085873/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=0932085873&linkCode=as2&tag=catholicmomcom) by Jacqueline Syrup Bergan and Marie Schwan.  I have worked through the Spiritual Exercises before but was more than happy to read, pray, and reflect through this adaptation.  One day, while out driving in the mountains of Western North Carolina I began to ponder what would be on my “bucket list” as I saw billboards advertising Zip-lining, hiking, and whitewater rafting along with wineries and mini-golf. I was almost ready to begin my list, at least in my head, since I was driving, when I stopped myself and realized I could not make a list.  Not now.  Possibly not ever.  Why? Because I was in the midst of following Ignatius as he offers his life up to God for His glory.  He strived to desire nothing more than God wanted for him and I want that as well.  Now, I am nowhere near Ignatius in terms of surrender of worldly pursuits and desires, but I am working on it, slowly moving into trying to understand what God’s will is for my life.  So right now, a bucket list would focus so much I what I want to do in my life rather than let it unfold in front of me according to God’s plan. There is always that line though between waiting for the billboard that says “Deanna, Go here, do this, it’s the plan. Love, God” and prayerfully discerning what should happen.  I suppose that’s one reason I like the quote “Pray as if it all depends on God and work as if it all depends on you” (sometimes attributed to Ignatius of Loyola, sometimes St. Augustine).  I pray, I plan, I pray, I move forward, I grow in trusting God. But for me, for now, no bucket list.  I’m leaving that up to my Father. ***Copyright 2013 Deanna Bartalini*** ### Share this article [![Share on Facebook](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/facebook-24x24.png)](http://www.facebook.com/share.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F07%2F14%2Fbucket-list-maybe-not%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dfacebook) [![Share on Twitter](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/twitter-24x24.png)](https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F07%2F14%2Fbucket-list-maybe-not%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F07%2F14%2Fbucket-list-maybe-not%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&source=tweetbutton&text=Bucket%20List%3F%20Maybe%20Not) [![Share on Email](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/email-24x24.png)](mailto:?subject=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F07%2F14%2Fbucket-list-maybe-not%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail%20&body=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F07%2F14%2Fbucket-list-maybe-not%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail) ** #### About the Author ![Deanna Bartalini](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/Deanna%20Bartalini%202025-1.png) ### [Deanna Bartalini](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/deanna-bartalini) Deanna G. 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