“The woman is at the heart of the home. Let us pray that we women realize the reason for our existence: to love and be loved and through this love become instruments of peace in the world.” ~ Mother TeresaI’m so grateful for that veteran mom who told me to put God and my husband first, because from that day forward my husband and I focus on each other and miraculously, family life is much more peaceful. Those little faces beam with joy every time my husband tries to steal a kiss from me. Our “date night” might be a bit sometimes unconventional, whether it includes a show on Netflix sitting on our living room couch, or a night out to dinner and a movie, but it is still important, because is only our night. We may only have time to watch a TV show or talk about our daily adventures after the children go to bed, but cuddling on the couch is exactly what we need in that moment. It is difficult to have a monthly date night with four children, but we have found other ways to spend quality time with each other. Some months we make special dinner reservations, while other times we play recreational volleyball, or sometimes we take a walk together after dinner with the children. Every day brings new opportunities for us to show our love for each other. A good and healthy marriage doesn’t require expensive vacations, opulent dinner reservations, or expensive jewelry. A strong marriage needs two people willing to show their love not only through the good times, but through each day in small ways. Image created using free elements in Canva by Danielle Heckencamp. All rights reserved.[/caption] So, as I look back on those early days of motherhood and our growth personally and spiritually as a couple, the future holds so many opportunities for us as we grow older. I have learned that if we first focus on God as a couple and then to focus on our children, our relationship will grow and foster, so that one day when the children have flown the nest, we will still have each other. And at that point in our lives, we will be able to focus more on our relationship which we pray will be an example for our children and possibly future grandchildren.
“The family, as the fundamental and essential educating community, is the privileged means for transmitting the religious and cultural values which help the person to acquire his or her own identity. Founded on love and open to the gift of life, the family contains in itself the very future of society; its most special task is to contribute effectively to a future of peace.” ~ St. Pope John Paul II
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About the Author
Danielle Heckenkamp is a stay at home mom and freelance writer who lives in Wisconsin with her husband and six children. Danielle writes about her daily experiences as a mom and love for her Catholic Faith. Danielle is the co-author of a nonfiction book about manners and common sense. You can find more of Danielle's writing at Homegrown Living or step inside her daily life on Instagram.