After learning a simple formula for prayer at a women’s retreat, Maria Riley shares her experience of putting it into practice.
Over the summer I had the privilege of attending a women’s retreat at a nearby parish. I jumped at the opportunity to grow in my spirituality and potentially meet some other faithful women in my town. During the retreat, our presenter, Catholic Mom writer Sheri Wohlfert, shared with us a formula for praying with people. Like out loud, spontaneous prayer. I don’t know about you, but this was a fairly foreign concept to me, reserved for the Evangelical Protestants who simply pray differently than we do.
The prayer formula
Sheri gave us a simple four-step process for praying with others.
- You start with a simple chat, asking how the other person is doing and how you can pray for them.
- Begin the prayer by calling upon God (Heavenly Father, we praise you/God we adore you/Come Holy Spirit).
- Next you mention your specific prayer request, something like “Today we ask your blessing for ____ who needs ____.”
- Finally, you close in Jesus’ name.
That’s it! The whole process is quick, and the prayer only needs to be a few sentences long. The words don’t have to be perfect, just as long as you approach the other person and God with sincerity and honesty.
Prayer in practice
As a Catholic mom, I’ve been working on modeling spontaneous prayer with and for my kids. I’ve also gotten into the wonderful and practical habit of pausing and praying immediately (in my head) when someone asks for prayers. I realized that if I didn’t, more often than not, my overloaded brain forgot and I never prayed for that person at all. I have grown my personal prayer time to be an honest conversation from my heart instead of only the recitation of memorized prayers.
But I have never walked up to someone, asked them how I could pray for them, and done so on the spot, out loud. At least, not before last week.
On Wednesday, as my committed hour of Adoration was drawing to a close, a young woman I’d never seen before came in. We exchanged smiles, and I resumed my reading. Within minutes, I heard her crying — the tears of a hurting soul. One of the many gifts of motherhood is the ability to discern the meaning behind tears. I felt her pain.
My heart felt compelled to pray for this woman. I put my book down, knelt, and offered prayers for her, whatever her sorrows may be. Then my replacement Adorer arrived, so I packed up my book and prepared to leave.
That’s when the Holy Spirit stopped me. I heard in my head, “Do you remember that thing I just taught you a few weeks ago? It’s time to put it into practice.”
Obediently (and slightly nervously, to be honest) I sat down next to the woman and asked her if I could pray for her. She readily agreed, so I asked her if there was something specific I could pray for. She then briefly told me her story, about how she was baptized into the Catholic faith as a teen, how she’d been away for too long, trapped by sin, and how today she heard Jesus calling her to Himself. By His grace alone, she listened. She opened her heart to let Him start the healing process.
I put my hands on her and prayed. I didn’t have perfect words. I didn’t even know what I was going to say when I started. All I knew was that this woman needed prayers, and the Lord asked me to pray with her today.
The prayer changed me
I don’t know how Christ will continue to work in her life, but I know that something beautiful happened in that chapel. I know that next time, praying out loud (even with a stranger) will be more natural and comfortable for me. I know that I let something I had learned actually change the way I behaved.
I’m no expert on praying with others, but I see the power in this practice. I believe I learned this formula so I would be equipped for this past Wednesday in Adoration. I want to keep letting Christ shape and mold me into the woman he created me to be.
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Maria Riley
Maria Riley is a passionate Catholic author and speaker who loves volunteering or playing board games when she’s not writing or mom-ing around with her four daughters. Her Catholic children’s chapter book series, Adventures with the Saints, has won awards and is endorsed by her bishop. Maria and her family live in Kansas. Visit her at MariaRileyAuthor.com or on social media @mariarileyauthor.
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