Jesus Wanted Me to Tell You Something

Denise Jelinek offers encouragement to women feeling unseen, underappreciated, or unloved.

If you struggle with feeling unseen, underappreciated, or unloved, this message is for you. 

If you find that decision making is challenging or you’re chronically second-guessing yourself, this message is for you.   

One morning, I woke up felt Jesus prompting me to write this letter to you. I pray you hear what He wants to tell you.  

Jesus knows your worth

My dear sister,  

You don't know me, but I feel called to tell you something. From the depths of my soul, I believe Jesus wants you to know you are worth getting to know and you are worth trusting.  

Writing this feels so trite, and I'm reflecting on how many times I heard the phrase “you are worth it” but never believed it about myself. Meanwhile, I was secretly jealous of other women who did believe those words. There was a woman at my gym who used to enjoy a 30-minute sauna after a workout. I remember thinking, “I wish I would let myself do that.”  

Back then, I didn’t know how to even begin to believe the truth of my worthiness. 

Do you believe your own worth? 

But today things are different. I am ready to tell you this because God prompted me to, and I see women, myself included, disregarding themselves and their needs. Sometimes we treat ourselves like we don’t matter and that there are more important things to tend to. In essence, we believe we aren’t worth listening to or being heard, seen, and known.  

It’s like we think our very existence is an inconvenience and other people’s tasks are more worthy of our attention, time, and love. We live as if we deserve less consideration than other humans in our lives.   

I write this as a loving reminder that you are worth being: 

• seen, 
• heard, and
• known.

I believe that denying that truth is the root of other problems you may struggle with, like:   

• chronic self doubt, 
• lack of self trust, and  
• and second-guessing your decisions.  

You may notice this when you’ve made a life decision and it’s followed by a sudden wave of second-guessing. Of course, prudent decision-making may require collaborating with others, but worrying because you lack self-trust may lead you to seek advice from too many others, trusting them rather than yourself.  I remember a time when I knew my son needed therapy, but I was afraid that my husband wouldn’t be supportive, so I did nothing. That lack of self-trust and second-guessing my instinct resulted in a significant delay in my son getting the help I truly knew he needed.  

The fear of being wrong brings a heaviness that makes days harder than and wasting precious mental and physical energy.   

I say all of this, my sweet, dear sister, once again to tell you: you are worthy to know, and you can trust yourself.  

Trust yourself 

Trust that you know what is best for your family and yourself (or, at least trust you know the next best step). You can always tweak things. Even if you’ve broken trust with yourself in the past, you can learn to count on yourself to follow through. This is a skill that you can develop when you believe you are "worth the work” to achieve “what you really want.” And remember: a skill is something you don’t know how to do yet but can learn and get better at.  

Know yourself 

When you give yourself the time to be seen and heard, you will develop a relationship with yourself that is not selfish. This is the kind of attention Jesus wants to give you; it’s how he would treat you. To practice this, pause and ask yourself these two questions 3-5 times a day: 

• What am I feeling?
• What do I need?   

Don’t fear that you will become selfish or self-reliant through this practice. Instead, you will be closer to living in His will as you get to know yourself as His precious, chosen daughter.  

You will be tending to yourself the way He would if He were on earth. 

You will become His hands and feet towards yourself.  

You will be strengthened to do the vocation for which you were created! 

Know you are loved and cherished by God

Please know that you are so loved, so cherished, so important and so worth the time and effort to be known.  

I know it's counterintuitive, but you will see how much more enjoyable and light life will feel as you get to know and trust the woman you are. After all, that’s the woman God created you to know more than any other human on the Earth.   

I love you,  

Denise 

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