STYLE Savvy: A To-Don’t List?

Lisa Hess considers an alternative to the "to-do list" to help with upkeep in organizing your home.

Of all the STYLE letters, E for Easy Upkeep gets the least amount of attention. It's what we aim for, using systems that match our styles as our road map, but it doesn't actually come with a road map of its own. 

So, life happens, clutter happens, and some days the upkeep isn't so easy. Frustration follows, and we fall back into the trap of feeling hopelessly disorganized.

But we're not. What's happened is that we (and our systems) have become overwhelmed and we need to step back and think about not just what comes next, but also what got us here.

Recently, I wrote a whole post about "to-don't lists" on my blog, and it got me thinking about how a to-don't list might apply to organization. It seemed useful, but, in the spirit of useful to-don't lists, I wanted to avoid making it a negative, scolding, cringe-worthy thing. 

Enter the abridged "to-don't" list: a very short, specific, single-item list, prompted by a single question. What one rule could possibly have prevented the pile-up? 

At my house, the dining room table rarely stays clear for more than a week. Much as I'd like to point fingers, the truth is that the fingers pointing back at me are the most accurate reflection of where the problem lies. A single, simple to-don't rule applies: "Don't put it down, put it away."

And it works. Until it doesn't. So maybe I need something even simpler—something like "Don't put papers on the dining room table."

If I followed that rule, I'd eliminate probably 90% of the clutter that accumulates.

Three things need to be true of our organizing "to-don't" lists. 

They need to consist of a single rule. No one wants to be nagged and negative self-talk just sends us back into the "I'm so disorganized" spiral, which neither solves the problem nor makes us feel good about ourselves.
The rule needs to be clear. The more open to interpretation it is, the easier it is to make excuses.
The rule needs to be easy to follow. "Don't put it down, put it away" works great for me most of the time. But, when I'm tired and/or overwhelmed, I promise myself I'll do the "put it away" part tomorrow and, before I know it, the clutter is winning.

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You are at the center of the organizing process, and you deserve to be treated nicely.  #CatholicMom

I cannot stress enough that the tone of the "to-don't" rule should be less command than light-hearted, humorous, and/or nurturing. Why? Because nagging never (successfully) accomplished anything. In addition, Organizing by STYLE is about remembering that you are at the center of the process, and you deserve to be treated nicely. 

Even when you make mistakes. 

Even when the paper clutter obscures the pretty tablecloth. 

Even when the same zone magnetically acquires clutter again and again because the three steps to put it where it belongs feel like three steps too many.

Some days, the clutter wins. But, if we have the right tools in our arsenal, we can emerge triumphant (and feeling good about ourselves) more often than not.

It's a process.

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