Visiting a Cemetery in November

Elena LaVictoire shares tips to guide you as you take your family to a cemetery this November to pray for the deceased.

I am at a point in life where I have a significant number of deceased friends and family. Many of my friends have lost parents, siblings, children, and even spouses.  In her mercy, the church encourages us to pray for the souls of our beloved dead and to remember that, living or dead, we are all part of the family of God, a part of the communion of saints.

During the month of November, we particularly pray for the souls of the dead. A visit to the cemetery might include cleaning up grave sites and praying for the souls there. For Catholics, visiting a cemetery in November is an act of prayer, remembrance, mercy, and hope in the Resurrection. Whether you're visiting a loved one, praying for the dead, or simply walking through a cemetery, the Catholic Church has a beautiful spiritual tradition surrounding the practice.

Here are the main things to know and do before you go.

Why Bother Visiting a Cemetery?

Catholics believe burial in a Catholic cemetery bears public witness to faith in Christ’s victory over death and the future resurrection of the dead. The human body is a temple of the human spirit and should be treated with charity and respect. Visiting the cemetery and praying for the dead shows charity and respect.

What to Know Before You Go

If it’s been a while since you have visited a cemetery, call the cemetery office before you go to get the location and plot number of the graves you want to visit. Some larger cemeteries have online search features and maps. One cemetery I visited had a big directory outside that people could use to search for burial information. Some cemeteries now also have QR codes you can scan for information on the graves in that section.

The popular site Findagrave.com can also help you find grave information at a cemetery.

If you have older children, you can easily include them in this kind of investigation before visiting the cemetery.

Fall Clean-up and Decorating

It’s traditional to bring flowers when visiting a grave site. In the Fall, this can be even easier! We usually bring a small pot of mums and maybe some pumpkins. I particularly like to do this for my baby’s grave.

In older cemeteries where a grave may not have had many visitors, you may find the grave needs clearing of leaves and debris, and the stone may need a quick cleanup. A spray bottle of water with a little Dawn dishwashing liquid, along with some sponges and rags and a little elbow grease, is all you need to clean up a stone. Children can be included in the fall cleanup and decoration. For some families, this becomes a yearly event!

Some Prayers to Pray

You can obtain a partial indulgence by devoutly visiting a cemetery and praying for the departed, even if the prayer is only mental. Praying a Rosary is always good as well.

In November, you can gain a plenary indulgence (full pardon for the consequences of sin) by visiting a cemetery each day between November 1 and November 8. These apply only to souls in Purgatory.

1. Make a sacramental confession.
2. Receive Holy Communion.
3. Pray for the intentions of the Pope.
4. Perform the prescribed indulgenced work, in this case the cemetery visits and prayer.

The confession, Communion, and prayer for the Pope's intentions may be fulfilled within several days before or after the indulgenced work, according to the Church's norms.

A great source of information and prayers can be found in Susan Tassone’s book, Prayers, Promises and Devotions for the Holy Souls in Purgatory.

While You’re There …

Depending on the cemetery, if you’re visiting with your children, be sure to check out some of the older sections of the cemetery. Are there any interesting stones or sculptures? Are there any well-known graves? Or are there any graves that look like they have been long neglected that might need some additional attention and prayers for the descendants?

The yearly visit to the cemetery can be a great way to instill this devotion in your children. It can be a great adventure for the whole family and a way to help your children develop the habit of praying for the dead.

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