If you’re a single Christian woman who is looking for a decent man…at times it may feel like he’s impossible to find.  And if you factor in that you’re looking for a decent man who also happens to be Christian, then you might feel like you’re on the quest for the Holy Grail.  Well, the good news is that there are men out there who fit this description…you’ve just got to know how to attract them!  So before you head out on your journey for love, be sure to take a look at the following advice for attracting the guy of your dreams:

Love the Lord.  To attract a Christian man you must demonstrate that you share in the same faith, values, morals and love for the Lord that he does.  When you trust in God and have love for Him, that light and spirit is sure to shine through in everything you do—and any man who feels the same way for the Lord will undoubtedly see it and won’t be able to help but be drawn to you.

Be yourself.  This is one of the most important rules when it comes to dating.  Dating can of course be intimidating and many women put far more pressure on themselves than needed.  So if you find yourself stretching the truth or wearing the mask of a person that you think will impress someone else…then you aren’t being your true self—therefore you are highly unlikely to attract your true soul mate.  Be confident in the person you are and show people your amazing personality.  If a man doesn’t accept that then he isn’t the right guy for you!

Get active in your church.  If you’re wondering where to find and attract a Christian man, then get up and head to church!  A good Christian man wants a good Christian woman, so put yourself out there to meet and interact with as many people as you can at Sunday services.  Also, check to see what kind of events and groups are available through your fellowship.  Get involved in Bible studies, single’s groups, volunteer activities, etc.—you never know who you might meet while serving the Lord.

Date online.  In this day in age, dating has been simplified by the convenience and ease of online dating sites.  And, low and behold, there are dating sites that cater specifically to single Christians like yourself!  You can meet a lot of great guys by conventional methods, but when you sign up for an online Christian dating subscription, you take a lot of the legwork out of selecting a match—through these sites you will already know that any potential suitors are Christian and you have the opportunity to sort through thousands of them from the comfort of your own home—even in your pajamas!  Remember to portray the same Christian values online as you would offline and use your safety smarts to have the most successful online dating experience possible.

Stay positive.  Of course, we all want to find that special someone.  But if you put all of your energy and focus into finding a man then you are sure to miss out on all of the other wonderful things and experiences God lays before you.  When you walk around down and sulking about not having a partner in your life, you will do nothing but hamper your efforts in actually finding someone.  Focus instead on the parts of life that you enjoy, smile and embrace a positive attitude being single…and don’t forget to trust in God that He will bring someone into your life when the time is right.

Erica St. Claire is a guest post author who enjoys writing about dating and relationships.  Additionally, Erica also contributes to Catholic Dating Sites where she offers Catholic singles advice for safe online dating.