--- title: A Mommy Star Chart description: A Mommy Star Chart --- [![catholic-mom-logo-v2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/images/catholic-mom-logo-v2.svg "catholic-mom-logo-v2")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) [![search-icon](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/search-icon.svg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2013/02/23/a-mommy-star-chart#) # A Mommy Star Chart Feb 23, 2013 1:00:02 PM  |  by [Courtney Vallejo](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/courtney-vallejo) [![A Mommy Star Chart](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/1377410_gold_star.jpg?width=300&height=287&name=1377410_gold_star.jpg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/1377410_gold_star.jpg) A Mommy Star Chart [Last month I shared the start chart that my kids and I made](http://catholicmom.com/2013/01/26/and-now-for-raising-the-kids-star-charts/) to promote good behavior.  If you missed the article, I basically went crazy with dicuts of “treats” and velcroed them to a chart.  Each child gets to pick the treat they’re working for and then attach it on the star chart as a reminder.  The charts are working really well and the kids are having fun picking their “treats” and then working for them. This month I’ll be talking about a “Mommy Star Chart.” I have to preface this by saying that I can’t take any credit for this idea, but instead have to give all the credit to my 5 year-old daughter. A few weeks after we started the kid’s star charts, my daughter was acting up and I was trying to patiently discipline her, but it wasn’t working very well.  After some time has passed, and we were driving in the car, my daughter said, “Mommy you need a star chart.”  I was taken aback and asked her why – she replied that then I could get stickers when I was patient with her. “You can get a sticker when you’re patient with me, when I’m upset or angry.”  I was shocked, to say the least, but started to think about it.  (As a side note, I did explain to her that being patient can mean ignoring her during a tantrum and that being patient does not mean I let her get away with everything.) But now I have to think through the logistics of this idea.  It’s a great visual way for me to constantly be examining my parenting skills (even when I might not want to admit my shortcomings) but where will I put the chart?  I thought about letting my daughter give me the stars, but I think she’ll miss use this as a way to battle/control the situation.  I’d like to open this idea up to further discussion, so please take a moment to share your thoughts on a Mommy Star Chart.  I’m trying to get myself to try the idea for Lent, we’ll just look past the fact I’m over a week late J I’ll look forward to sharing ideas about the Mommy Star Chart and discussing our growth together! ***Copyright 2013 Courtney Vallejo*** ### Share this article [![Share on Facebook](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/facebook-24x24.png)](http://www.facebook.com/share.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F02%2F23%2Fa-mommy-star-chart%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dfacebook) [![Share on Twitter](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/twitter-24x24.png)](https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F02%2F23%2Fa-mommy-star-chart%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F02%2F23%2Fa-mommy-star-chart%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&source=tweetbutton&text=A%20Mommy%20Star%20Chart) [![Share on Email](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/email-24x24.png)](mailto:?subject=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F02%2F23%2Fa-mommy-star-chart%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail%20&body=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2013%2F02%2F23%2Fa-mommy-star-chart%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail) ** #### About the Author ![Courtney Vallejo](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/Contriubutors/COURTNEY%20VALLEJO.jpeg) ### [Courtney Vallejo](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/courtney-vallejo) Courtney Vallejo is a convert to the Catholic faith. She and her husband are homeschooling parents of three adopted children. She loves speaking at women's groups and Catholic conferences! Courtney is a Barton tutor for Dyslexic children. She writes for her own blog, [CourtneyVallejo.com](http://CourtneyVallejo.com). She is also the co-founder of AMomRevolution.com and has a master's degree in Film Production. ## Related Blog Articles [ Tech Talk: Bead by Bead Read ](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2018/05/22/tech-talk-bead-by-bead/) [ Book Notes: Before I Was Me Read ](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2018/03/26/book-notes-before-i-was-me/) [ Should I Feel Guilty? 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