Last month I shared the start chart that my kids and I made to promote good behavior. If you missed the article, I basically went crazy with dicuts of “treats” and velcroed them to a chart. Each child gets to pick the treat they’re working for and then attach it on the star chart as a reminder. The charts are working really well and the kids are having fun picking their “treats” and then working for them.
This month I’ll be talking about a “Mommy Star Chart.” I have to preface this by saying that I can’t take any credit for this idea, but instead have to give all the credit to my 5 year-old daughter.
A few weeks after we started the kid’s star charts, my daughter was acting up and I was trying to patiently discipline her, but it wasn’t working very well. After some time has passed, and we were driving in the car, my daughter said, “Mommy you need a star chart.” I was taken aback and asked her why – she replied that then I could get stickers when I was patient with her. “You can get a sticker when you’re patient with me, when I’m upset or angry.” I was shocked, to say the least, but started to think about it. (As a side note, I did explain to her that being patient can mean ignoring her during a tantrum and that being patient does not mean I let her get away with everything.)
But now I have to think through the logistics of this idea. It’s a great visual way for me to constantly be examining my parenting skills (even when I might not want to admit my shortcomings) but where will I put the chart? I thought about letting my daughter give me the stars, but I think she’ll miss use this as a way to battle/control the situation. I’d like to open this idea up to further discussion, so please take a moment to share your thoughts on a Mommy Star Chart. I’m trying to get myself to try the idea for Lent, we’ll just look past the fact I’m over a week late J I’ll look forward to sharing ideas about the Mommy Star Chart and discussing our growth together!
Copyright 2013 Courtney Vallejo
About the Author
Courtney Vallejo is a convert to the Catholic faith, who lives in California. She and her husband homeschool their three adopted children. She is the cofounder of AMomRevolution.com, whose mission is to inspire, encourage, and reclaim joy in motherhood. She also writes for her own blog, CourtneyVallejo.com. Courtney holds a Master's degree in Film Production and a California Multiple Subject Teaching Credential. Follow her Gluten Free/Dairy Free adventures on Instagram: @aglutenfreerevolution.