--- title: Discernment description: What are your deepest desires? Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp invites readers to reflect on those God-given gifts they MUST use. --- [![catholic-mom-logo-v2](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/images/catholic-mom-logo-v2.svg "catholic-mom-logo-v2")](https://www.catholicmom.com/) [![facebook](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-facebook.svg)](http://www.facebook.com/CatholicMomCommunity) [![twitter](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-twitter.svg)](http://twitter.com/CatholicMomCom) [![instagram](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-instagram.svg)](http://instagram.com/catholicmomcommunity) [![youtube](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/social-icon-youtube.svg)](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCAuUqHCVPDzyMgSMaMZxxug?view_as=subscriber) [![search-icon](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/icons/search-icon.svg)](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/2016/06/17/discernment#) # Discernment Jun 17, 2016 9:30:05 AM  |  by [Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/lori-hadorn-disselkamp) ![Copyright 2016 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp](https://www.catholicmom.com/hs-fs/hubfs/Imported_Blog_Media/Proposal.jpg?width=925&height=500&name=Proposal.jpg) Copyright 2016 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp   Each of us were granted different gifts by God to be used to serve God and others. Many of us find it difficult to discern those gifts and the best way to use them. I have been reading in my course work about discernment. I came across the story of a poet who was approached by a budding poet who had been rejected many times (it sounded so familiar). He asked the young poet to think about the following questions: If you could not write, would you die? Must you write? My answer was: yes, I must write. I can’t think of a time in life when I did not write daily since third grade, when I wrote my first poem and fell in love with writing. Why do I write? To express my thoughts To organize my ideas To remember To renew my soul To understand my motives To reveal my inner self To move others closer to God To love To accept To give To open myself To receive To process information To create To be authentically who I am To give back to God To center myself To find, discover, and seek God To reach out to self, others, God, future generations To comfort To infuriate To ruffle feathers To inspire To breathe To live To be who God created me to be. Reflect on the gifts that God has given you. Which gifts could you not live without? What gifts MUST you use? Write out a list of why you use those gifts and see where it leads you… *Copyright 2016 Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp * ### Share this article [![Share on Facebook](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/facebook-24x24.png)](http://www.facebook.com/share.php?u=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2016%2F06%2F17%2Fdiscernment%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dfacebook) [![Share on Twitter](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/twitter-24x24.png)](https://twitter.com/intent/tweet?original_referer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2016%2F06%2F17%2Fdiscernment%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2016%2F06%2F17%2Fdiscernment%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Dtwitter&source=tweetbutton&text=Discernment) [![Share on Email](https://static.hubspot.com/final/img/common/icons/social/email-24x24.png)](mailto:?subject=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2016%2F06%2F17%2Fdiscernment%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail%20&body=Check%20out%20https%3A%2F%2Fwww.catholicmom.com%2Farticles%2F2016%2F06%2F17%2Fdiscernment%3Futm_medium%3Dsocial%26utm_source%3Demail) ** #### About the Author ![CatholicMom Logo](https://www.catholicmom.com/hubfs/_catholicmom/logos/favicon-catholicmom.png) ### [Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp](https://www.catholicmom.com/articles/author/lori-hadorn-disselkamp) Lori Hadorn-Disselkamp - mom of 4 teens/wife for 20+ years. Lori has been writing at her own website [Faith Filled Mom](http://www.faithfilledmom.com/). She writes about the journey of faith we live daily and the ability to recognize God. She is a retreat director at Sacred Heart Academy HS. 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