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A fellow Holy Cross priest here at the Peyton Center responded with this phrase when asked, “What is the most important quality of a good father?”
A listening and compassionate heart makes a good father.
Saint Benedict, father of western monasticism and patron saint of Europe, advised the monks to listen with the “ear of the heart.”
This Father’s Day, how about going right to the heart of what makes a good and successful father? James B. Stenson, in his little book, Successful Father, offers the following 12 traits of good fathers:
Copyright 2018 Fr. Willy Raymond, C.S.C.
- Successful fathers have a sense of supportive partnership with their wives.
- They think long-term about their children’s future character as grown-up men and women.
- They frequently talk with their wives about their children’s character strengths and weaknesses.
- They frequently discuss things with their children.
- Of course, such fathers listen to their children as well.
- Successful fathers keep television watching to a minimum.
- They see discipline not as punishment or mere behavior-control but rather as a means of building their children’s self-control
- Successful fathers are confident of their authority.
- Successful fathers seem to have a number of close friends.
- Successful fathers frequently have a deep and active religious faith.
- Successful fathers teach their children to be ‘poor in spirit.’
- Finally, the most successful fathers always put their families ahead of their jobs.
Copyright 2018 Fr. Willy Raymond, C.S.C.
About the Author
Father Willy Raymond, C.S.C.
Father Wilfred J. Raymond, C.S.C. (Father Willy), a native of Old Town, Maine, is the eighth of 12 children. He joined the Congregation of Holy Cross in 1964 and was ordained to the priesthood in 1971. He earned a bachelor’s degree in philosophy from Stonehill College in 1967 and a master’s in Theology from the University of Notre Dame in 1971. He served in ministry at Stonehill College (1979-1992), Holy Cross leadership (1994-2000), National Director of Family Theater Productions, Hollywood (2000-2014), and President of Holy Cross Family Ministries (2014-2022). In addition to English, he is conversant in French and Spanish. He remains a diehard fan of the Boston Red Sox, even though he has served as Chaplain for the Los Angeles Dodgers.
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