“This is my commandment: love one another as I love you. No one has greater love than this, to lay down one’s life for one’s friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you.” (John 15:12-14) Copyright 2019 Ellen Mongan. All rights reserved.[/caption]Love involves sacrifice. Love causes us to holding each other up when one of us cannot stand alone. Love enables us to give to our spouse even when the thorns are piercing our heart, blinding us from the view of the rose presented. During times of suffering one grows in maturity. Stand by each other and being there for each other, helps couples grow in love for one another. We learn to draw upon God’s love. No one wants to choose the rose with the many thorns, but thankfully it is God who allows the roses given to us in this life. He presents them to us with His love. Remembering that nothing happens to us unless it is God’s perfect will or His permissive will brings us hope in trials! Almost a decade has passed since that Friday evening when Zach and I chatted about the rose with the fewest thorns. I rejoice whenever I happen to see him and his dear wife and their beautiful bouquet of children. I always want to ask him that one question; instead I hold my tongue. Over the years I have grown in self-control. I have learned that some lessons in life only God can impart to a soul. I bet you are wondering what question I would ask Zach? The question is, “Zach, if you picked a rose today for your beloved, would you still hunt down the one with the fewest thorns?"
Copyright 2019 Ellen Mongan
About the Author
Ellen Mongan, a Catholic writer and speaker, has been married more than 40 years to Deacon Pat Mongan. They have 7 children and 12 grandchildren. Ellen is a host of WOW Radio Podcasts, a religious columnist for the Augusta Chronicle, and has spoken on both radio and television. She is the founder of Sisters in Christ, Little Pink Dress Ministry, and Women-Fests.