Caitrin Bennett reflects on how faithfulness in small things, like showing up for a nightly cup of tea, can make your spouse feel prioritized and loved.
Every evening, my husband Chris and I try to have our three young kids in bed by 7:30 PM. After this, we each get an hour of quiet alone time. At 8:30, Chris comes downstairs to join me, and we chat, drink tea, and watch TV together.
Chris is much more introverted than I am, so I know the alone time is very important to him after a long day with coworkers and our crazy gang of children. During this hour, he enjoys watching videos or reading articles on topics that don’t exactly interest me, such as watchmaking, leatherworking, and cars. He is also taking online classes right now, and recently he’s had to give up some of his precious alone time to finish schoolwork.
But when the clock strikes 8:30, he logs off from it all and comes down to spend some time with me. It may not sound like a big deal, but hearing Chris on the stairs right at the expected time makes me feel loved and prioritized. We don’t get to go out for fancy dates very often, so this time together in the evening is our “date.” We both value this time, and we can rely on one another to consistently show up for it.
Our Vow to Love Faithfully
The past couple of months, I’ve been writing about our Catholic marriage vows and simple ways to live them out. One of our vows is to love our spouse faithfully, and it can mean so much more than just avoiding extramarital affairs. Jesus explained to His disciples that those who were faithful in small matters would be faithful in larger matters, too. In fact, it is the “small matters” that actually train a person to be faithful in more difficult or heavy circumstances.
I know I will be able to rely on Chris in the darkest and most painful moments of my life because I can rely on him to come downstairs for tea at 8:30. I know he will show up for me when I truly need him, because he shows up for me every day.
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When you prioritize time together, you show your spouse that you love them faithfully, in the small matters and the large. #catholicmom
To live out your marriage vow a little more today, I challenge you and your spouse to carve out a special block of time for just the two of you. It doesn’t have to be every day, and it can be short and simple. The most important part is that you both show up for it. When you prioritize time together, you show your spouse that you love them faithfully, in the small matters and the large.
Copyright 2022 Caitrin Bennett
About the Author
Caitrin Bennett is a military wife and homeschooling mama of three young children. Her blog at HolierMatrimony.com combines two of her passions: sharing the Church’s beautiful teachings on marriage, and creative writing. Caitrin hopes to one day publish her own book on married saints and Catholic marriage.