- Reflect on the Meaning of Love – What do you believe motivates God to be so generous? Love. After all, God is love itself. He wills our good. He constantly thinks about what is best for us. And as we know from the life of Christ, love is not devoid of suffering. We have to work at it though, having at the beginning faith in the new life of the resurrection. If love is “willing the good of the other,” while also caring for oneself, how can you live love in your marriage or relationship today?
- Consider the Vocation of Marriage. In a sense, every relationship can assist the individuals involved in making their way to heaven. We are to assist one another in growing in holiness–to align our will with God’s will. Marriage is a more intimate and form of this Christian vocation. By the marriage covenant in its great permanence, the man and woman are entrusted with the task of getting the spouse to heaven. To do this, the marriage must be united to God himself. The ambitions, desires, and inclinations of the spouses must be united to that of Christ. In your marriage, how do you help each other to heaven? What does this mean to you and your priorities and choices?
- Entrust Everything to God – Today you are to say “Yes” to God in whatever he asks of you. Take time to listen and talk with God, as well as cry and laugh with him. Use this as a time to offer God your spouse and/or the person you are struggling with the most, including the betrayal you have experienced from an affair or ongoing usage of pornography. Saint Gianna Molla said: “As to the past, let us entrust it to God’s mercy, the future to Divine Providence. Our task is to live holy the present moment.”
- Assess the Situation – Take time to assess the current state of your marriage. Where are you and your spouse emotionally, physically, spiritually and mentally? How is pornography impacting these four categories? How is it impacting your marriage? With the answers to these questions in mind, do you know how to move forward? Consider learning about healthy boundaries and what they should look like when your relationship is impacted by pornography. The free Covenant Eyes ebook Porn and Your Husband contains a helpful recovery plan to guide you in the days ahead.
Copyright 2018 Amanda Zurface About the author: Amanda Zurface is the Catholic Campaign Coordinator for Covenant Eyes. Amanda holds a License and MA in Canon Law and a BA in Catholic Theology and Social Justice. Amanda has served in various roles within the Catholic Church both in the United States and internationally. She is the co-author of Equipped: Smart Catholic Parenting in a Sexualized Culture and Transformed by Beauty. She resides in Zanesville, Ohio, where she also serves as the Director of Faith Formation at Saint Thomas Aquinas Catholic Church.
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