

Inspired by the book
I modified this tool I learned from Holly Pierlot, author of The Mother’s Rule of Life. Holly was a homeschooling mother of five, pulling her hair out trying to juggle responsibilities, needs, and commitments. One day Holly stepped back. She thought about individuals in religious life. Religious orders like the Carmelites have a “rule of life” to help govern their daily activities that lead to sanity, peace, and the fulfilment of their mission. Holly thought why couldn’t she apply this same concept to her life as a wife and mother. From there the “Mother’s Rule of Life” was created. I have adapted my own application of the “Mother’s Rule of Life.” Like any tool, it works when you work it. I create a new “Mother’s Rule of Life” each change of season since the needs of my kids, my family, myself, and my business all change over time. I’ve experienced firsthand the peace from using it and the disorder when I neglect it. Here are my adapted steps to create your personal “Mother’s Rule of Life”:- INVENTORY – Begin the process by keeping in mind the developmental, emotional, spiritual, and physical needs of all of your family members, yourself, and your business. Your kids, marriage, and business needs evolve. The next step to sanity is to make sure the strategies and structure to your life evolve along with them.
- DRAFT A CALENDAR – Figure out what activities your kids will do, what your marriage and spouse need, what activities are important for your business health, what you need as a person. Play around with how those things look in a schedule grid. What worked last summer may not work perfectly this summer, because needs change.
- NEGOTIATE CONFLICTS / BE CREATIVE – This is the nitty-gritty. See where needs and commitments clash and either cut things out or look for creative ways to make it work, such as carpooling, assigning tasks to your children, tag teaming with your spouse, or hiring help in your business. Pray for discernment from the Holy Spirit. Going on the fly is a way to put your will ahead of God’s because you never really make the hard choices. It also cuts out innovative ideas on how to make it work when you are building the plane while you are flying it rather than spending some pre-flying time in the airplane hanger.
Copyright 2018 Christina Weber
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Christina M. Weber
Christina Weber helps Christian biz owners to earn more in less time, have a greater impact, and live a life they love on a daily basis. Visit her website: http://christianbizownersonfire.com/
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