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We recently spoke with four older couples about the challenges of parenting adult children, especially those who have fallen away from the faith. One mother shared her sorrow that her son not only has left the Church, but is actively antagonistic towards the Catholic faith and to her. A father of four adult sons talked about the frustration of finding out that his older son (who spent years serving as an altar boy and who had once considered a vocation to the priesthood) has stopped attending Mass. One couple shared the sad situation of their daughter’s same-sex relationship. Another couple was heartbroken that their daughter now considers herself “transgender.” All four of these parents, faithfully practicing Catholics, asked “What do we do now?” and “Where did we go wrong?"
I’m not an expert, but I do have some experience with parenting adult children who have abandoned their faith. Regarding blame: Recognize that our world has gone astray. Our adult children are being bombarded with messages contrary to the faith. Unless we have kept our children in a box their entire lives, they will come to know many more people who are living a hedonistic lifestyle than living a virtuous one.
Here are some suggestions that my husband and I have come up in dealing with adult children who have abandoned their faith.
Copyright 2019 Ellen Gable Hrkach
- Unconditional Love: Love the Sinner, Hate the Sin
- Pray for Your Children Every Day
- Fast and Sacrifice for Your Children
- Look for Opportunities to Dialogue (But Don’t Nag or Preach!)
- Be a Virtuous Example
- Find Supportive Parents Who Are Going Through The Same Thing
- Be Hopeful
Copyright 2019 Ellen Gable Hrkach
About the Author
Ellen Gable Hrkach
Ellen and her husband, James, have been certified NFP teachers since 1984. She’s also an award-winning, bestselling author of twelve books, an editor, a publisher, and a self-publishing book coach. Her newest novel is Where Angels Pass. The mother of five adult sons and grandmother of two precious grandchildren, Ellen lives in Pakenham, Ontario with her husband. Contact her at Full Quiver Publishing.
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