Danielle Bean recalls her first Thanksgiving as a young wife, when the Rosary brought comfort at a difficult time.
Dan and I spent our first Thanksgiving as a married couple at his mother’s bedside in the hospital. She had suffered a stroke and was on her third day in the intensive care unit, incoherent and unresponsive to medication.
One of my husband’s aunts arrived and suggested that the two of us should take a break from sitting vigil and head down to the cafeteria for lunch. And so we did. We sat alone at a chilly metal table and did our best to ingest a hospital cafeteria’s attempt at Thanksgiving dinner, complete with compartmentalized plastic trays and disposable silverware.
I poked at a scoop of cold mashed potatoes and struggled to stifle a selfish anger that threatened to rise within me. This was not at all the way this day was supposed to be.
It was 1994. I was pregnant with our first baby and had entertained grand ideas about establishing holiday traditions for our young family. Our first Thanksgiving dinner was supposed to be an idyllic feast of family and food. My mother-in-law and I were supposed to be getting on each other’s nerves and stepping on each other’s toes in the kitchen while others watched football in the next room.
I was a young woman in a young marriage. My mother-in-law’s sudden illness was my first real taste of the reality that things might not always go as I had planned them -- that God might indeed allow for suffering and loss in my family life.
That Thanksgiving evening, Dan and I returned home to our one-bedroom apartment. When he suggested we pray a Rosary for his mother before going to bed, I flinched. Pregnancy plus the long day had left my body with previously unknown levels of exhaustion. But what kind of wife and daughter-in-law flinches at such a request? I said yes.
Dan handed me my Rosary and there, in our tiny living room, sitting on second-hand sofa cushions, we prayed. I thought of my mother-in-law lying in her hospital bed as we prayed. I remembered the smell of hospital disinfectant and the steady beep and hum of life-saving equipment.
I was still confused and sad, but as we prayed together that night, I could feel Mary wrap her arms around the two of us, surrounding our tiny family with her motherly love and guidance. For the first time in days, I breathed a sigh of relief. With Mary, I found peace.
I never finished praying the Rosary that night. After a couple of decades, my responses slowed and my eyelids grew heavy. When I could no longer fight it, I finally fell asleep.
Dan didn’t wake me. He and Mary finished praying for both of us. Just like I knew they would.
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About the Author
Danielle Bean is an author, speaker, podcaster, and brand manager at CatholicMom. She and her husband Dan have 8 children and live in New Hampshire.